My Best Friend & My Worst Enemy: #4 FOOD

A little over a week ago, I told you about 2014 being MY Year of the “F” Word. A day later, I dove into “F” Word #1, and the meaning of it’s placement in my life in 2014. Next, I explained why I included The BIGGEST “F” Word of them ALL: FAMILY (because they are kind of a big deal). #3 on my list to hash out was Finances (the hashing out that will last for all of eternity). And now, we are down to the final “F” Word (besides fun and future, which are both considered in my thoughts and progress towards the other “F” Words). What next?

Disclaimer: As mentioned in my first post on the subject, my “F” Words are not listed in terms of relevance to me, and neither will they be explained in any particular order.

#4: Food

I need to change my views on food, and 2014 is a great place to start! I have had little glimpses of this insight before…right before chowing down on a really good burger, or licking my fingers clean of barbeque sauce. What? There are 3 desserts? One of each please!

I’ve gone through bouts of counting calories, of attempting to cut entire food groups out of my diet, I’ve thought about dieting and cleansing, and all that jazz. More and more I have heard that food intake has the biggest affect on a person’s weight. 

Well, that is not all.

In figuring out how I want each “F” Word to apply in my life, I have not only been experimenting and trying new things in all areas, but also reading up on all of them: devouring as much information as possible to make informed decisions. I follow numerous health professionals via Twitter, Facebook, and email chains. I read their articles, their mantras, their “guaranteed-to-lose-weight” fitness routines and eating plans. If I could share with you the overarching lesson it would be this:

Every body is different, therefore, not every body is the same.

“Running makes you lose weight fast.” “No, cutting calories does! But you can eat what you want within those calorie limits!” “An apple a day…” “Do you even life, Bra?”

ENOUGH!

Every person is so unique in personality, in physical traits, in how their bodies react to different foods and exercises, that, truly, each person needs to experiment with both to see what works for them.

Over the years I have cut some foods out of my every day life. Doing so has had no effect on my weight…not even soda! For some people, cutting soda alone would make them lose 20 pounds. More recently, I have been cutting down on even fruits, cottage cheese, milk, and whole grain bread. In fact, once I run out of each of these things in my home, I am going to stop buying them for a bit. Maybe these seemingly healthy items have been keeping me at a heavier weight my entire life. That doesn’t mean they aren’t healthy, that just might mean they aren’t right for me on a regular basis. I will continue my experimentation and research until I find something that works for me.

But keep in mind: this isn’t a once-in-a-lifetime experiment. As we grow and change, so too do our taste buds. So why wouldn’t food problems, allergies, etc. do the same? This experiment is really something I will be doing my whole entire life. And just because I pinpoint that sugar isn’t good for me (it really isn’t good for ANYBODY), doesn’t mean I will never have it. I have the BIGGEST sweet tooth, and am trying to wean myself from that tendency now. But I would be fine with a piece of dark chocolate or anything my mom bakes every once in awhile (and ice cream, ice cream, ice cream! Even though I realized it wreaks havoc on my stomach when I eat it a few times a week).

I also will no longer be looking at food as a reward. I will leave food rewards for my dog to earn. There is no reason for me to go to the gym and sweat my butt off for 1-2 hours a day, only to say “I’ve earned a sweet treat!” and undo everything. Oh, and portion control? Now a practice instead of just an idea. No need to over-indulge on every meal, I know when to stop, I have that control. Calorie counting? No reason when I know the majority of things entering my body are being put there for nourishment instead of just “I wants”. 

Because food makes my body run. Bad food makes it run poorly (fatigue, poor sleep quality, illness, punky moods, etc.), while clean, simple foods make it a well-oiled machine. This well-oiled machine gets me to the gym nearly every morning AND evening, as well as staying alert and active throughout the day. Being alert and active throughout the day keeps me in tune to my finances (in making plans, following through on plans, and thinking things up that I wouldn’t be able to on a regular basis). Being alert for the rest of the day keeps me in tune with my relationships (family), and being healthy will keep me around for them for a very long time.

2014 is THE Year of the “F” Word: Family, Finances, Fitness, & Food. They all come together to guarantee a Fun & Fruitful Future.

What is 2014 going to be for you? Have you already set out on the path to betterment? Join me!

Happy Thursday, Happy People!

❤ The RoaminTwin
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The Most Daunting “F” Word: FINANCES

Exactly one week ago, I told you about 2014 being MY Year of the “F” Word. A day later, I dove into “F” Word #1, and the meaning of it’s placement in my life in 2014. Next, I explained why I included The BIGGEST “F” Word of them ALL: FAMILY (because they are kind of a big deal). What next?

Disclaimer: As mentioned in my first post on the subject, my “F” Words are not listed in terms of relevance to me, and neither will they be explained in any particular order.

#3: Finances. Not something I ever thought I would have a hard time with. Ever.

I have been listening to the Dave Ramsey show in the car with my mom for years. I saved up as much money as I could prior to college so that I would have some spending money. I lived at my parents’ house following college for nearly 3 years to save enough money to move out while also being ahead. I should have thought more about the “saving money” part while there, because I didn’t come out with as much in savings as I anticipated.

Especially with a wedding coming up.

So, as you may have read in a number of my posts, I recently moved out of my parents’ home. And I have this wedding on the horizon. Timmykins and I are paying for it (for the most part) on our own. My parents have generously offered to help out, but I want to take care of it as much as possible. With his bonus being a little less than anticipated, and my not putting myself on a spending fast (as of yet), we aren’t quite where we want to be for the wedding…2 1/2 months out.

AND at this point, I won’t have that cushy nest egg when we are finished paying for this big ole shebang that I have right now, as my savings account became my wedding account.

Should I have stayed living with my family until the wedding? Probably. But I really wanted to live on my own for the first time in my life (if even just for a few fleeting months), I am getting a pretty good deal where I am staying because it is a good friend renting it to me, and now, Timmykins and I have a guaranteed place to live for after the wedding (at least until my friend moves home and wants his digs back, which is up in the air for now 🙂 ). Should I have gone on a spending fast way before now? Yes. But: CHRISTMAS.

I had a bit of a meltdown at marriage prep weekend this past weekend – not the place to have a meltdown – and hyperventilated going over how little I will be able to contribute to the wedding in my coming paychecks. So, I made a plan to put a specific amount of money directly into the wedding savings account every time I get paid, and to only pull money from that account for the wedding. When Timmykins and I mapped it out, we are going to be able to save just about the amount we need come wedding time. PHEW!

But then, what about AFTER the wedding?

This is my 2014 financial plan: Build & Maintain. Only, after March 21st, I must focus on two of us.

After the wedding, I will continue on a little spending fast (no impulse buying, eating healthy and not buying a bunch of snacks or fast food, keeping the bills down as much as possible) in order to:

A. Build the emergency nest egg back up 
B. Continue to pay off my student loans. I am officially announcing that I will have these paid off by December 2014 (I THINK I can, I KNOW I can).
C. Save up enough money to take a family trip abroad this summer (if my parents see fit) as well as honeymoon in the fall. Comfortably.
D. Keep Timmykins on track to save more than he spends
E. If we see fit, combine our checking accounts into one. Ahhh, married life 🙂

So, now that I have laid that out in front of me for the first time (thank you, readers, for the motivation!), I can more carefully plan, and DO! This “F” Word could constantly have me going “OH F***!!”, but with a little budgeting based on what I KNOW lies ahead, as well as all of the unknowns, I can keep my head on straight.

And so can you!

What are YOUR 2014 Financial Plans?

❤ The RoaminTwin

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The Year of the “F” Word

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Good Morning / Afternoon / Evening, Happy People!

Along with a little down time the last couple of weeks, I have been pondering what my word, theme, goals, etc. of the year 2014 are going to be. I thought that the relaxation would clear my mind and turn it into a canister for new materials and ideas.

Nope.

Instead, the relaxation turned me into a lunatic. It made me feel so very unproductive. I know that shutting down every once in awhile is good for the body, spirit, and mind, but I just haven’t been able to fully tune into that idea. I am a mutli-tasker at heart, which is both a blessing and a curse for me. Maybe “tuning out” – not in the 1960s drug usage sense – is something I can work on in this new year. Heck: maybe I can learn how to multi-task relax!

That’s a bit overboard.

The moral of this story is that relaxation didn’t help me dream up my 2014 at all.

It wasn’t until I was pouring my morning cup of coffee yesterday that the light bulb turned on in my head and a beacon of light shown through the clouds atop my head to a choir of angels chanting my name…

2014 is The Year of the “F” Word!!

For everyone else, it can be their year of cleansing, simplifying, love, starting fresh, etc. And those are all WONDERFUL things to focus on within your year. But my 2014 begs to be a little more specific, while also all-encompassing. How the HECK do I do that? Well, by making this The Year of the “F” Word, of course!

And, I hate to break it to you, but I am not referring to THE “F” word (though, sometimes, you just have to not worry, not stress, know that you have done all that you can, and say “F it!”…which is something I need to work on as well). MY “F” words are:

*Fitness
*Finances
*Food
*Family
                                         not necessarily in the above order

Over the next few posts, I am going to go over each and why they are what I will focus on this year. They may seem self-explanatory, but each person holds a different perspective, and maybe mine is a fresh one to help motivate you towards your goal(s) for 2014!

Do you have a theme for 2014? If so, what is it? If not, let’s figure it out for you! Feel free to comment below or contact me privately!

And, as always: Have a Happy Day, Happy People!

❤ The RoaminTwin