Teeny Tiny Love Note

My bridal party is a reflection of me.

Yes, I am making this all about me (not).

What I am trying to say is that through the years, friends have come and gone, but these ladies (and gent) have stayed by my side. Though I love them all for individual reasons, my number one reason for loving them as a collective is that they have not been a source of negativity and pain in my life.

They are my buddies, my support, and my source of laughter. None of them dampen my spirits with gossip or judgments, and we can all pick back up from where we were before, like there was never any distance or time spent apart.

I hope you all have those people in your life. Think: who would be in my wedding party? Right the very second? If you immediately think of few people that would NOT go on that list, why? Are they sources of negativity? Do they just pull you down with them? Why are they still in your life?

I can honestly say I have never had to ask myself these questions of those I will have standing up on the altar with me (including Timmykins, his groomsmen and ushers). I love them all. I can’t wait for us all to congregate (some in the next few hours, others in the coming days). And I can NOT wait for the joy of this day.

Still holding true to enjoying my last days as a “single” lady. And bringing those good vibes into the marriage with me.

Also, I need to give the BIGGEST shout out to my mom, dad, and sister! They have been so helpful with everything concerning this day, and have kept me so relaxed! I know I don’t show it or say it every day, but I love you all so much! You are some of the most wonderful, giving, and kind people I know! I hope you will let me make it all up to you!

Sorry if I get a little sentimental, or a little absent in the coming days. The most important people in my life are coming together, and there may be an explosion of awesomeness. But there will definitely be a focus on people this week.

🙂

Stay Happy, Happy People!

❤ The RoaminTwin
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I leave glitter everywhere physically, these people in my life leave it metaphorically. On my heart. Mushy gushy, no? 🙂

 

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The BIGGEST “F” Word of THEM ALL: FAMILY

So, Tuesday I told you about 2014 being MY Year of the “F” Word. Then, Wednesday, I delved into “F” Word #1, and the meaning of it’s placement in my life in 2014. Today, saunter with me to the land of “F” Word #2: Family.

Disclaimer: As mentioned in my first post on the subject, my “F” Words are not listed in terms of relevance to me, and neither will they be explained in any particular order.

As I make this journey through 2014 – as well as every year hereafter – I crave support. Physical support in a shoulder to lean on, a long embrace, someone to help me stretch out after a long workout. Mental support in pushing me verbally towards my goals and dreams, reminding me that I am my only roadblock on my journey to success. Emotional support in picking me up when I fall (obviously not literally), listening when I need to vent. I am sure the list of ways someone can support another reaches around the globe and back!

But, I also feel a necessary component to my living a fulfilled 2014 (and life) is to give. Give of my time, my care, my love.

And who better to give and receive support from than family? My immediate family is awesome, so is my extended family, made up of relatives as well as my very nearest and dearest friends.

To infinity and beyond, I will prioritize my family. I will continue to attend my brother’s sporting events and edit his school papers. I will work out with my mom and my sister (and anyone else who wants to join us!), work with them on reaching all of our individual goals, and strengthen my relationships with them that have strained a bit over this transition period of my life. I will always talk sports with dad, joke around with him, poke fun at him, and ask for advice. He is the BEST advice giver. I can’t wait to settle into married life with my best friend, Timmykins (not settle DOWN. This girl can’t be tamed!), and discover what adventures are in store for us. I will also make myself more available to my friends that mean so much, to talk, to eat, or just to hang out in our PJs.

As nearly passed-over above, I feel that some of my relationships have become a little strained in the past year. I can wholeheartedly stand behind the fact that my last year of transitions (getting engaged, moving out of my parents’ home and into a rental of my own, becoming an independent individual, and beginning to prioritize myself) has really taken a toll on these relationships. Oh, and the whole saving money thing that goes along with the wedding (goodbye happy hours at 54th Street, hello nights in…EVERY night in). With the wedding nearly upon us, the house on it’s way to being completely set up, and the potential of some time freeing up, I am ready to be a people person again.

I just hope everyone else is ready for me to be a people person again 🙂

❤ The RoaminTwin

Family

Camaraderie

My brother, far right

My brother, far right

I have failed you this week, Happy People!

You see, life sometimes gets in the way of what we love the most.

And for that I am truly sorry. All I can do, is pick back up where I left off: writing about the lifestyle/quest that is happiness.

One of the reasons I have been slacking in writing for all of us, is because of my brother (yes, something I can legitimately blame him for). The last few weeks have been post-season for high school golf, and that darned kid just kept advancing! This week, in fact, was the State Tournament, and what do you know, we found ourselves 2 1/2 hours away watching my brother golf with the state’s best.

And he golfed the worst he has all year.

There was no club throwing or stomping around. There was no yelling at the ball to “HIT THE TREE!” (at least, not from him). There was no crying or screaming, and his head didn’t exercise itself 360 degrees from hours of head shaking.

Knowing he was inwardly frustrated, we expected a little more of a BANG at the end when he finished and let out all of the anger he had accumulated over 2 days of golfing sub par (badum-tish).

It never happened.

Instead, he ate lunch with our family, then walked back out to the far reaches of the course to watch a fellow teammate finish the last couple of holes. In his drive to find and cheer on a comrade, he distracted himself from any kind of tantrum that could-have-been, and ultimately avoided it all together when the boys were back at the club house oohing and aahing over the champion scores (4 of the top 15 were itty bitty freshmen!), laughing and just goofing off after such a successful year.

So, make sure you have people in your life that will be there for you and with you in times of struggle or disappointment. People who will not just distract you from those times, but will bring a whole new light on the matter at hand. Because in all reality, it was just another golf tournament. A practice round for the ones to come.

But those friends of his will stick around past that tournament. I just hope he offers the same relief for them.

Surround yourself in love and things don’t seem so bad, happy people!

❤ The Roamin Twin