Wedding Wednesday #2: People & Party!

Happy Wednesday, Happy People!

Last Wednesday, I introduced you to my BRAND NEW blog series: Wedding Wednesday! 

It will always get the “!” at the end, because weddings are a big deal and so much fun as a guest OR guest-of-honor!

This week, we continue with Wedding Wednesday #2: People & Party! This is a fun one that – as you will see when we delve into this post – you can start to work on before you are engaged (heck, even before you are in a relationship!). Sound a little crazy? Well, face it, some of us have been dreaming about this day our entire lives. We might as well get as many details in order as possible beforehand!

When I was a senior in high school, we had a marriage class for the portion of the year. In this class, we also had to plan a wedding. We were paired up, drew a budget out of a hat, and had to do research on numbers, vendors, etc. to plan this wedding together within our budget. My partner and I received a budget of $25,000 (generous, in my mind – and well over what we spent for our wedding). One of our first items-of-business was to each create a guest list for our own ideal weddings. Because we were two completely different people with no mutual friends or loved ones, we really had to prioritize and cut our lists down to meet budget.

Well, I kept my original list. It had 300 people on it, that if I were to have gotten married in 2008, I would have liked to invite. Over the years, I cut people and added others, but I always kept that file on my computer. And it REALLY helped when planning my actual wedding came along! Knowing that Timmykins was who I was going to marry BEFORE he proposed also helped, because I was able to start adding his family and non-mutual as well as newly-mutual friends to the list before the nuttiness of the planning process began. It was really nice to have a general idea (no-so-nice that our original number was close to 400, YIKES!).

I had mentally been doing the same thing when it came to the wedding party years ago. Subtracting people as I realized they were negative influences in my life, adding as I realized who genuinely cared. It’s definitely something that’s nice to have figured out beforehand.

So, that is just the beginning! Below, you will find my top tips for perfectly planning the people part of your party!

Always have your wedding party in mind. Write it down if you have to! Realize it doesn’t have to be too large, and one partner’s side of the altar does NOT have to match the other’s. We went with 7 bridesmaids, 7 groomsmen, 2 ushers (one of my best guy friends, and another friend of his), 1 flower girl, and 1 ring bearer. Your numbers could differ drastically!

Who else will be a part of the ceremony? This is a HUGE event in your life, and you want to choose people wisely. I didn’t just want any ole priest performing the ceremony, especially one that didn’t know us as a couple. I wanted someone who would be able to speak true to our relationship. Good thing for us, Timmykin’s father is a Deacon, and his mother is the wedding coordinator at a nearby church. CHECK! We also needed 3 readers. We could have asked anyone, but I was honored to ask my mom to be a bigger part of the ceremony by reading, as well as my second mom to read another, and one of Timmykin’s sisters to read the third (he has 5 sisters). All of this really helped us wrap our heads around a general church wedding and personalize it as much as we could.

Who do you want there? We wanted 400 people there, but it just wasn’t feasible for us (always kept a budget in mind, and did what we could to include as many guests as possible). It was important for us to have our families and closest friends there to witness and celebrate our love for one another. We both have large families. We also have many people who have shaped our lives. We went back and forth for 8 months following the proposal on who we HAD to cut (it was painful!), and ended up inviting WAY more than originally anticipated, but really really wanted those people to be with us. In the end, around 100 RSVPd NO, and things were back in our ideal numbers, but we still wish everyone could have been in attendance!

Note: If there is someone on your guest list that you do NOT feel this way about, someone that gets on your nerves, or is negative, or you just don’t feel that they have been a big part of your life, don’t invite them. It’s your day. –And I know people will tell you over and over again that it is your day, and still try and force ideas on you, but ALWAYS remember that IT’S. YOUR. DAY. Make it one of the most happy and carefree days of your existence 🙂

Goodness, this post feels like another rant, but I just feel so strongly about starting your guest list and ceremony participant list EARLY so as to make the process much easier on you. Waiting until the last minute causes unnecessary stress, as well as – potentially – regrettable decisions. Regretting inviting the wrong person, or not inviting someone who is really important to you. Same with the wedding party: including someone who is just not a positive influence in your life, someone out of obligation, etc. Plus, early planning means you can ENJOY THE ENGAGEMENT that much more!

Because, truly, it is about you, your future, and your happiness.

Stay tuned for next week’s Wedding Wednesday: Theme! – or something with a better name 🙂

And, as always, have a Happy Day, Happy People!

❤ The RoaminTwin
Our Wedding Party: some of our favorite people, and we wouldn’t have it any other way!


All Together Now

‘You know that I could use somebody / You know that I could use somebody / Someone like youuuuu…’

I have mentioned before that I spent a little time studying in London. It was one of the coolest experiences of my life so far, and I want to remember every detail forever. However, if I woke up in the morning and could only remember one thing from that trip, it would be a few moments on my last night in the country. In a pub/bar/club.

I steered away from these kinds of places for the majority of my time in London. Not only was I underage back in the States and felt some kind of guilt every time I did order an alcoholic beverage (I had a few drinks here and there on the trip, but didn’t go nuts), but I also didn’t travel all the way over there to see the inside of a bar day after day and night. Unlike most of my classmates, I wanted to see and soak in as much of the city and its surroundings as possible in my short stay.

Yet, after trying so hard, my most memorable moments were inside of that pub/bar/club. Just off Trafalgar Square. Couldn’t even tell you the name. Only that it was three stories high, with the pub on the bottom, bar on the second floor, and club on the top floor. And it was PACKED.

When we went inside, we slowly made our way through (my sister and a few classmates and I), stopping on each floor to decide whether we wanted to stay there or move on up. My sister and I would have been perfectly fine in the pub on the first floor. We like spaces where you can sit and talk while relaxing and enjoying a drink and some grub. Then again, we were with a group of girls that were completely decked out in club clothes and weren’t worth trying to have a conversation with (What can I say? We wanted to end our trip with a bang!). So, we all ventured up to the bar. It was apparently too early because everyone else in the space was 40 years old or older. To the third floor we went.

It looked like any other underground club. Exposed brick walls. Creaky wooden floors. A big space, really, separated only by weight-bearing beams. It had a DJ booth and stage for live acts. Tonight was a band doing covers of, well, everyone. I guess you could say they were covering the 80s, 90s, and today 🙂

They started “Use Somebody” by Kings of Leon: anthem of that summer. I knew all the words and was enjoying it like I would enjoy any live band. Until the part in the song where it sounds like the entire band is singing “Oh oh-oh, oh oh-ohhhhhhhh” (you know the part. I’m not gonna sing it for ya).

EVERYONE in the packed room sang it together at the top of their lungs. EVERYONE.

It blew my mind. Not that people would be able to sing those “words” in unison, but that it was such a beautiful moment to me. I know I sound like a huge candy ass, but it made me tear up a bit. No matter who we were, what country we were from, what language(s) we spoke, we ALL knew that part. I’m telling you: if I was a live performer, I would bawl like a big fat baby EVERY NIGHT as my fans sang my songs with me. I would have no shot in hell.

There is a point, and here it is:

No matter where you are, good or bad spot in your life, unknown country or group of people, or if you feel lost in your everyday surroundings just know that you are surrounded by people. People that love, feel, care, and people that are going/have gone through the same emotions as you. That no matter where you are in life, you belong.

Though I felt nothing like an outsider that night (heck, I want to live in the UK, so I DEFINITELY felt like an insider – even if I was forcing it), I felt like I was part of something bigger than that club. Maybe it is because it spanned all nationalities, languages, etc. 

Regardless, it was a splendid feeling.

And I haven’t felt something so powerful in terms of a community since. I am not sad for this. I am just happy that I got to experience it, and I am happy knowing that I can be a part of something like that again. And I will.

Have you ever had a similar experience? Something that made you feel connected to complete strangers; part of a whole?

If not, you will. Happy Friday, Happy People!

❤ The Roamin Twin

Happy Tweets Wk 3

Hello and HAPPY MONDAY, Happy People!

It’s that time of the week again: Happy Tweets abound!

For those of you new readers: I will be (hopefully) posting motivational/happy/funny tweets every Monday to start your week (and mine) off on the right (or left, dammit!) foot!

If you have any suggestions for Twitter accounts that I should follow, let me know! And don’t forget to follow me at @RoaminTwin


Susanes Heart QuotesSusanes Heart Quotes ‏@embracingchoice21 Apr
Gratitude is like the syrup on a big stack of pancakes ~life just wouldn’t be as sweet without it. - – RB ‏@Stage32online26 Jan
I don’t think there’s any artist of any value who doesn’t doubt what they’re doing. – Francis Ford Coppola


Lori FieldsLori Fields ‏@RealBeautyIs26 Jan
Everybody has something to offer.


Andrea OwenAndrea Owen ‏@andrea_owen24 Jan
“I am realistic- I expect miracles” – Wayne Dyer


Liz Dennery SandersLiz Dennery Sanders ‏@SheBrandLiz11 Jan
How people treat you is their karma, how you react is yours. – Dr. Wayne Dyer
Now, go out there and conquer the world! I believe in you, Happy People!
❤ The Roamin Twin