Wedding Wednesday #3: Theme Time!

You’re Engaged! And you have at least thought about the People & Party! So, this week we continue Wedding Wednesdays with #3: Theme Time!

What the heck am I talking about?

The main point of every wedding is defined (you know, marriage), but I had a theme in mind for nearly the entire engagement to tie everything together into a cohesive, comprehensible idea.

The theme for mine and Timmykin’s wedding: These Are a Few of Our Favorite Things.

Not only is the a title of a song in – my favorite – The Sound of Music, but it also represents in the most fantastical way the personalization of our big day. Which was a big deal to me.

If you have NO IDEA what kind of theme you are looking for, you could either start with colors OR you can ask yourself the following:

What 3 words would you use to describe your wedding?

This question wasn’t asked of us until about a month prior to our wedding by our DJ. And I thought it was brilliant, so I wanted to present it to you earlier in your planning process! My response to this particular question was: classic, whimsical, and personalized. Our original theme completely aligns with these!

In following posts, you will find how we threaded this theme – and these descriptive words – throughout our big day.

There are so many theme options: from video games, to a favorite song or movie, to even a career! But if I can give you one piece of advice, it would be to personalize as much of the day as possible to the two of you. Not only will it show people who you are as a couple, but it will bring the two of you together in the planning process in an entirely new way. I am not saying go completely nontraditional, but challenge yourselves not to just follow the trends and include things just for the grand traditional wedding’s sake.

And, if you need any help, let me know!

❤ The RoaminTwin

PS – Excuse my potential hiatus for the next couple of weeks as I focus on my husband and adventure on our HONEYMOON! I am hoping that our trip will bring with it some interesting content to share, all in due time! When I come back, expect a post or two on Personalization & DIY for YOUR WEDDING!
ImageImageA sneak peak of some personalization in our table decorations!

 

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Wedding Wednesday #2: People & Party!

Happy Wednesday, Happy People!

Last Wednesday, I introduced you to my BRAND NEW blog series: Wedding Wednesday! 

It will always get the “!” at the end, because weddings are a big deal and so much fun as a guest OR guest-of-honor!

This week, we continue with Wedding Wednesday #2: People & Party! This is a fun one that – as you will see when we delve into this post – you can start to work on before you are engaged (heck, even before you are in a relationship!). Sound a little crazy? Well, face it, some of us have been dreaming about this day our entire lives. We might as well get as many details in order as possible beforehand!

When I was a senior in high school, we had a marriage class for the portion of the year. In this class, we also had to plan a wedding. We were paired up, drew a budget out of a hat, and had to do research on numbers, vendors, etc. to plan this wedding together within our budget. My partner and I received a budget of $25,000 (generous, in my mind – and well over what we spent for our wedding). One of our first items-of-business was to each create a guest list for our own ideal weddings. Because we were two completely different people with no mutual friends or loved ones, we really had to prioritize and cut our lists down to meet budget.

Well, I kept my original list. It had 300 people on it, that if I were to have gotten married in 2008, I would have liked to invite. Over the years, I cut people and added others, but I always kept that file on my computer. And it REALLY helped when planning my actual wedding came along! Knowing that Timmykins was who I was going to marry BEFORE he proposed also helped, because I was able to start adding his family and non-mutual as well as newly-mutual friends to the list before the nuttiness of the planning process began. It was really nice to have a general idea (no-so-nice that our original number was close to 400, YIKES!).

I had mentally been doing the same thing when it came to the wedding party years ago. Subtracting people as I realized they were negative influences in my life, adding as I realized who genuinely cared. It’s definitely something that’s nice to have figured out beforehand.

So, that is just the beginning! Below, you will find my top tips for perfectly planning the people part of your party!

Always have your wedding party in mind. Write it down if you have to! Realize it doesn’t have to be too large, and one partner’s side of the altar does NOT have to match the other’s. We went with 7 bridesmaids, 7 groomsmen, 2 ushers (one of my best guy friends, and another friend of his), 1 flower girl, and 1 ring bearer. Your numbers could differ drastically!

Who else will be a part of the ceremony? This is a HUGE event in your life, and you want to choose people wisely. I didn’t just want any ole priest performing the ceremony, especially one that didn’t know us as a couple. I wanted someone who would be able to speak true to our relationship. Good thing for us, Timmykin’s father is a Deacon, and his mother is the wedding coordinator at a nearby church. CHECK! We also needed 3 readers. We could have asked anyone, but I was honored to ask my mom to be a bigger part of the ceremony by reading, as well as my second mom to read another, and one of Timmykin’s sisters to read the third (he has 5 sisters). All of this really helped us wrap our heads around a general church wedding and personalize it as much as we could.

Who do you want there? We wanted 400 people there, but it just wasn’t feasible for us (always kept a budget in mind, and did what we could to include as many guests as possible). It was important for us to have our families and closest friends there to witness and celebrate our love for one another. We both have large families. We also have many people who have shaped our lives. We went back and forth for 8 months following the proposal on who we HAD to cut (it was painful!), and ended up inviting WAY more than originally anticipated, but really really wanted those people to be with us. In the end, around 100 RSVPd NO, and things were back in our ideal numbers, but we still wish everyone could have been in attendance!

Note: If there is someone on your guest list that you do NOT feel this way about, someone that gets on your nerves, or is negative, or you just don’t feel that they have been a big part of your life, don’t invite them. It’s your day. –And I know people will tell you over and over again that it is your day, and still try and force ideas on you, but ALWAYS remember that IT’S. YOUR. DAY. Make it one of the most happy and carefree days of your existence 🙂

Goodness, this post feels like another rant, but I just feel so strongly about starting your guest list and ceremony participant list EARLY so as to make the process much easier on you. Waiting until the last minute causes unnecessary stress, as well as – potentially – regrettable decisions. Regretting inviting the wrong person, or not inviting someone who is really important to you. Same with the wedding party: including someone who is just not a positive influence in your life, someone out of obligation, etc. Plus, early planning means you can ENJOY THE ENGAGEMENT that much more!

Because, truly, it is about you, your future, and your happiness.

Stay tuned for next week’s Wedding Wednesday: Theme! – or something with a better name 🙂

And, as always, have a Happy Day, Happy People!

❤ The RoaminTwin
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Our Wedding Party: some of our favorite people, and we wouldn’t have it any other way!

 

Blog Challenge: Days 28 & 29

It’s another double up day for RoaminTwin!

We are SO CLOSE to the end of this 30 Day Blog Challenge, and I think it would be unfair to lag myself another day late (I should have completed this today).

If you don’t know what this is, check it out HERE!

Enjoying the Blog Challenge material? Stop by my twin sister’s BLOG! We are answering the same questions separately to see how similar our answers are! Do YOURS match any of ours?

Here are the prompts for days 28 & 29, and what I have to say in response!

Day 28 Question: What travel tools and services are most important to you when taking your business abroad?

A: I have already commented on what I couldn’t live without while traveling, so basically, this is an addendum to that! Since I would be taking my laptop with me, I will need plug in adapters. There is a USB one (more convenient than the big bulky ones I have taken overseas in the past) on TSE’s Day 28 Post that I would definitely be looking into. I would also need a backup hard drive of at LEAST 1 TB, as well as traveler’s insurance (for all of the crazy, adventurous things I will be doing that I don’t do on a regular basis and have never done before)!

I am sure there will be other gadgets and services that I will learn about between now and my travels, but for now, this frugal mind is done spending hypothetical money hypothetically 🙂

Day 29 Question: What does your blueprint for living the dream look like to you?

A: Beyond all certainty, I want my life to be wonderful, I want to be happy and I want my loved ones to be happy, I want to travel the world, I want to own my own business, and I want to spend the rest of my life with my buddy, Timmykins. I will never give up my passion for film, and I still plan on taking the film industry by storm with SOMETHING one of these days. I won’t give that up. I also won’t give up a career/lifestyle that I love. We will adapt our lives accordingly, but there is no reason to give up what makes us happy for anything. And, honestly? I don’t mind spending some money (as long as we make it first) to travel. Yes, I always want to be one step ahead financially, but sometimes, the future may have to take a backseat for awhile for adventure. Because, what is life for? I sure as HECK am not living today only planning for tomorrow!

What life blueprint would make YOU happy? Honest-to-goodness elated about life? Let me know!

1 more day of the challenge to go…

❤ The RoaminTwin

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Rest & It’s Opposite: Decision-Making

OK, so you know how I joked about yesterday–being the 7th day in the Blog Challenge–should have been the day of rest?

Well, I was wrong: TODAY was the scheduled day of rest! How about that?

So, I will take that scheduled rest in stride while still writing about happiness. Because that is what I do, and we all need a little reminder, right?

Yesterday my patience, dreams, and waistline were put to the test. Wedding dress shopping was overwhelming. I am not one who loves to go shopping for hours, nor do I like to try on clothing. The lighting in the fitting rooms is such so that every flaw is accentuated, and every outfit makes you look like the Michelin Man.

It probably didn’t help that I was tired as all get out. For some reason my mind was racing the night before with excitement and so many ideas. I MAYBE got 3.5 hours of sleep. Maybe.

But, through the clouds of white tulle, pile of dresses stacked to the ceiling (literally), and accessory after accessory of eye-catching sparkle, I came out of it with:

1. An open mind – dress styles I NEVER thought would look good on me, I can pull off. This does not make me stray fully from the ideas in my head, so that is good.

2. I am looking much more svelte these days! I thought my biggest challenge would be fitting into the sample dresses. Instead, my biggest challenge was that, even though I am fine with adding embellishments to a less frilly dress, it is really difficult to picture it all put together when you have the simple gown on. And, as I continue to slim down, it is also hard to want to pull the trigger on ordering a dress size 8 months in advance knowing that I will have to spend another few hundred $$ to have it resized. But, hey! I found proof that my healthy habits are paying off!

3. I just want to marry Timmykins. Every time I tried on a new dress, I had him in mind. Not what I would look like in the pictures, not what made me look the skinniest. I could only picture his face. Which makes it a little more difficult because he loves me in everything, and I can’t make a damn decision to save my life.

Am I expecting tears or just KNOWING that I found THE dress? Not at all. I wish it would happen, but I didn’t even cry when we got engaged. And I KNOW he is the one.

How are YOU on decision-making? Does it come easily for you? Can you teach me your ways? What kind of decisions – big or small – have you had to make recently?

Have a Happy Happy Day, Happy People!

❤ The RoaminTwin

The Lottery

Do you ever think about winning the lottery? Not just dream about it, but plan for it. 

When I win [insert current PowerBall amount here], I am going to pay off my student loans, pay off my parents’ house, pay for my brother to go through college, move out of my parents’ house…

The list goes on and on. At least for me. And those actions listed above are some of my top priorities. If I won the lottery, those things would be taken care of first.

But, I must admit, I get carried away. And I PLAN for the money. Not just hoping for it. Then, I must admit, I get a little disappointed when I don’t win. Even when I don’t play. Isn’t that crazy?

Well, I just played a lottery in my own life. Not THE lottery, but a lottery that I had a better chance at winning — I thought.

I started planning on winning this lottery. Planning my future around it. My excitement escalated. A dream was going to come true. Not just because I was dreaming it, but because I was working towards it.

Then, with the snap of a finger, it was over. Planning was useless.

But dreaming is NEVER useless. Working towards a goal is NEVER pointless.

This is going to take a bit to pound into my own head, but it is necessary. I didn’t win this time, but it isn’t the only lottery.

And the more often I play, the better my odds.

 

❤ The Roamin Twin