And It Is Perfect.

Aside

Standing in front of the 40 or so people at mine and Timmykin’s rehearsal dinner, I didn’t know what to say. I wanted to thank each person individually for all they have done for myself and for TImmykins as individuals and as a couple. I wanted to thank each of them for all that they had done for our big day. I wanted to let them each know how much I loved them. But I didn’t have anything prepared.

Honestly, I thought the words would come naturally, especially with this small group.

And at first, they didn’t. But then I thought of something that I could express to them all without being too wordy, or forgetful, or taking up the remainder of their evening. So I told them:

I have lived in Sacramento. I have lived in San Diego. I have lived in Kansas City. Through it all, I have always thought and said one thing: If I could be surrounded by the people I love, it doesn’t matter where I live. And here I am, with all of you. And it is perfect.

Of course, there was more said – after choking up and crying a bit – but that is the most important thing I could tell any of them. Regardless of their participation in the preparation and wedding itself, they are the people I love. Basically, who I would be OK being stranded on a deserted island with (I know it wouldn’t be without conflict, but I would choose them anyway 🙂 ).

Not everyone could join us this weekend, but I am oh-s-grateful for those who could. I just realize that it was as close to perfection as it could be.

Regardless of what I write regarding the wedding and all of its glory in the next days and weeks, if I could give anyone one piece of advice: appreciate all of the love and support around you on that day. It is the only time that all of those supporters will be in one room…supporting you.

It’s what I thought as I stood at the beginning stretch of the aisle walking into the church. All that stood between Timmykins and I besides this empty aisle were the people we know and love. The people who understand us, who love us, and who came to witness us at our happiest. Not only was it my day to shine in the most beautiful dress I will ever own, it was my day to thank those people that we love and to revel in their love towards us. Even those who couldn’t make it, I could feel them there in spirit.

Isn’t that just a beautiful thought? And one that has brought me to tears multiple times.

 

I would like to publicly acknowledge my family for all that they did in preparation (and in raising me, of course!):

My sister, my MOH. She stepped in and helped with so much! From bachelorette parties, to shopping, to putting together a lovely gift from the bridesmaids. She made our slideshow video, and put together a tear-inducing “Sorry-we-couldn’t-be-there” video from some of my favorites. She took care of me through the emotional ups and downs, and even split the duty with me of doing my hair and makeup! Of course there is so much more that she did, but I couldn’t begin to list it all here. Basically, she is the best person I could have wanted to be my sister or MOH.

My wonderful mother. She took the reigns on cookie and cake making (thousands of cookies, all of the wedding cakes!), she read our general intentions for us (another tear-jerker during the ceremony), she took me dress shopping and made seemingly thousands of trips to craft stores far and wide to find some of the perfect things for me. She fussed about making it the perfect day for me, and did so much, and I just love her for it!

My dad. First of all, he didn’t scare Timmykins off when asking for my hand in marriage. But he also did so many things, including last-minute runs to pick up 1,000 donut holes for the reception, chocolate covered tuxedo strawberries that I have wanted on my wedding day since I was a little girl, having a backup video camera (which was needed and GREATLY appreciated), and giving the most splendid father-of-the-bride toast I have ever heard – dropping a little knowledge along the way. Did I mention he was the best dance partner for our father/daughter dance? He always has been, and always will be 🙂

I guess I could thank my brother, too. 🙂 He makes me smile every day, and he gave me the strongest hug after the ceremony that I will always remember. That kid is growing up into an awesome, caring, and motivated young person!

I only hope that I can share the love and support that my family has given me, and will continue to give me, throughout the years.

Just revel in it, Happy People. Revel in it 🙂

❤ The RoaminTwin
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My beautiful family 🙂 PS-GOTTA love photobooths!

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Thank You

Since I was born, a Thank You note has been written for every gift I have received. Before I could write, it was my mom who wrote them. As I got older, I wrote the simple kind:

Dear Grandma,

Thank you for the blanket. It is so warm and I will love it forever.

Love, RoaminTwin

For the past 10 or so years, these have developed into more thoughtful and intricate notes. I let Uncle David know what I plan on using the gift card for. Aunt Vickie knows that I love sparkles, especially in my favorite color! And these thank yous are as sincere as can be: no just grazing the surface here!

My mom INGRAINED into her kids the importance of a Thank You note. Sure, most of them probably end up in the trash after being read once (though I would appreciate them to be at least RECYCLED), but at least for that one read-through, your loved ones know you took the time to think of them and their thoughtful gift and thank them. And the thing is, this practice of Thank You note writing all of these years has led to a greater understanding and appreciation of people and LIFE! Gratitude is not an automated response, but one of the deepest feelings I have ever–and will ever–feel.

What are YOUR thoughts on gratitude? Does it heighten your happiness, your life?

I know I have said this before, and I will say and feel it again: Thank you. From the bottom of my heart, thank you. For your support, your comments, your love. Without this close-knit community of happiness-seekers and journeymen, I wouldn’t have the motivation to keep doing what I do, in happiness. THANK YOU!

❤ The RoaminTwin

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Happy Tweets Monday

Good lordy! Has it already been over a week since my last post? When short spurts of time off from my blog happen accidentally, I usually feel a pang of regret…like I have let you all down.

But I want you to know that this time I am HAPPY I took those days off. And that is what this blog is about, right? Happiness and the journey of life in the state of happiness?

To tell you the truth, work has been kicking my butt lately, and by the time I get home from work or one of my brother’s soccer games, I am spent. It’s not that I take the time to relax. I edit some pictures or video, and pass out quite early.

I haven’t even had time for working out…GASP!

After a weekend abundant in friendship and happiness – and a quick trip to the grocery last evening for some healthy foods to start this week off right – I think it is high time for some Happy Tweets for this fine Monday! Don’t you?

Enjoy!

Inspiration4U ‏@lnspiration4U
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” – Thomas Edison
 
Dave Ramsey LIVE ‏@DaveRamseyLIVE
@ChrisHogan360 Being a visionary will require you to also be exclusionary at certain times
 
QuotesNSmiles™ ‏@QuotesNSmiles
Even when you don’t think you do, you know the answer – Charlene Barry
 
Lori Fields ‏@RealBeautyIs
Transitions are a time for an extra dose of self-compassion. Surround yourself with people & things that calm, support &inspire you.
 
Great Minds Quotes ‏@GreatestQuotes
“Three grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.” – Joseph Addison
 
Stage32.com – RB ‏@Stage32online
You are the only person on earth who can use your ability. ~ Zig Ziglar
 
QuotesNSmiles™ ‏@QuotesNSmiles
“Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” – Joshua J. Marine
 
Liz Dennery Sanders ‏@SheBrandLiz
One can never consent to creep when one feels an impulse to soar. – Helen Keller
 
Happy Monday, Happy People!
❤ The RoaminTwin

Blog Challenge: Day 24

If you have no idea what this Blog Challenge is, or want to join in on the fun, start HERE!

Enjoying the Blog Challenge material? Stop by my twin sister’s BLOG! We are answering the same questions separately to see how similar our answers are! Do YOURS match any of ours?

Today’s prompt focuses on travel, and boy is that my cup-o-tea!

So, without further ado:

Day 24 Question: What are your travel essentials for your chosen destination(s) ?

A: As you may remember, I have fully disclosed to you — my loyal audience — that I would love to be able to work from home. Of course, I want my home to be a cottage on the coast of England, Ireland, or Scotland with a large outdoor living space with amazing views. I also want to travel my you-know-what off, using this cottage as my home base.

When I get to this point, here my travel essentials will be:

1. Toiletries, passport, medications, money, clothing (given)
2. Timmykins (I don’t know if this was considered a given to anyone else. But, given.)
3. My laptop. This is how I plan to work for the rest of my life. And I plan to enjoy it 🙂
4. iPad. For those days when I want to carry a smaller load and my work is a little more minimalistic.
5. My DSLR camera. That is my baby and will assist me in photographing and videoing my adventures, as well as content for my website. Videography/photography are two of my biggest passions.
6. Mascara (because I am a little vain), chapstick, sunscreen, & sunglasses.

Really, I don’t need much. I have everything I need in the support of my family and friends, as well as my health. Experiences are what I want to collect for the rest of my life. Wonderful, adventurous, meaningful experiences.

What would be on YOUR packing list?

Happy Friday, Happy People! Now, go live your own adventure!

❤ The RoaminTwin

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Blog Challenge: Days 17 & 18

Here I go, slacking again! I bet if it were you, you wouldn’t be slacking on me, would you??

I am happy to come back from these short hiatuses (even just a day or two) because I feel refreshed and ready to take on the world. Writing when I am not inspired is a bad idea for your, for me, for everybody!

So, without further ado, here are the prompts — and my responses to — the Blog Challenge Days 17 and 18!

Day 17 Prompt: What three steps can you take to build trust and credibility online for you, your brand and your business?

A: 1. I will engage my followers (that means you!) in meaningful and thoughtful conversation. I want to bring light to the depression epidemic and move people to a more cheery disposition. I will do this through Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, and my blog, as well as through multiple other platforms that I will be developing here soon!

2. I plan on bringing a face to my blog. Those who know me personally know how I am and how I interact. They know that happiness is at the forefront of my attention. But my online audience — those of you who have opened your minds and hearts to me without even knowing my name — you only see my words and an occasional picture. I want you to see me in action, interact with me in real time. It’s coming…

3. I am dreaming of a day where I can go out into the world and meet you all. I can’t wait for the day where I have launched everything, started classes, coaching, etc. and have written a book and am on tour. Wouldn’t that just be lovely? I would be the happiest person on the planet, and maybe you would be willing to challenge ME in the subject! Would you?

Day 18 Prompt: What does your dream sales team look like and how will you ensure they help you build your business?

A: My dream sales team is made up of my best friends. They could be friends now, or readers-turned-friends! They have to have a history of happiness, and lead positive lives so that others will trust their opinions on happiness and the products that support a happy lifestyle — products I will be providing for you! Because, really, would you trust a negative Nancy with YOUR happiness?

If you want to check out my progress from day one, start HERE!

Enjoying the Blog Challenge material? Stop by my twin sister’s BLOG! We are answering the same questions separately to see how similar our answers are! Do YOURS match any of ours?

Have a relaxing remainder to your weekend, Happy People!

❤ The RoaminTwin

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THE Challenge

Quick Note: 100 posts!!! WOW! I didn’t know I had it in me! Thank you so much for joining me on our journey of happiness thus far, and I hope you will continue onward!

Alright, on to the nitty gritty:

I am always up for a challenge.

And, honestly, I haven’t been challenging myself enough lately.

So, a couple evenings ago, I had a conversation with Timmykins that went a bit like this:

Me: So, this wedding. I want to be able to afford it.

T: We will be fine.

Me: I want to be more than fine. How about we see who can save the most money between now and December (31st)?

T: You will win.

I don’t make as much as he does, but he has more expenses than I do at this point, so I understand what he is saying. 

Me: Well, let’s try it! It can’t hurt…

I think that is where the conversation ended. But that is not where the idea nor the challenge ended. I am not letting this one go.

And I need your help.

I need you to hold me accountable, to motivate me. I know that I can become more relaxed with the idea of being able to pay for a wedding without spending every penny I have, but it will take a lot of hard work and determination in the mean time.

And, since I am challenging him, I don’t think I will be getting much support from Timmykins 😛

Do you need motivation and accountability in the way of a challenge? Let me know and I will get on YOUR support bandwagon too!

❤ The RoaminTwin

PS–Any ideas on how to make extra money for me? I will do all I can in the way of saving, but that might not get me to pass Timmykins! I love arts and crafts, people, getting rid of my “junk” and photography. What else can I do? Thanks 🙂

My Church

No. I have not created my own religion or even sect of a religion. I have come to realize, as I sit here in a cold ice arena cheering for my boyfriend and his best friend in their developmental hockey league that being a support system for my loved ones has become church for me where church is lacking in my life.

Here I sit. In the same spot on the back row of the middle set of bleachers. Every Tuesday evening for the last six or so months. Save for a handful of Tuesdays during which I support my brother in whichever season is upon us: soccer, basketball, or golf.

Other routines I have recently partaking in are workout Wednesdays (supporting my need for exercise and my best friend’s need to get out of the house) and craft nights (supporting my coworker/friends’ ongoing projects and my want to create ongoing projects for myself).

All of these activities are based around support systems. We motivate one another towards specific goals, while also working towards some of our own. I will admit, I knit during the majority of sporting events, but that doesn’t take away from my also keeping my focus on the game or match at hand while also yelling obscenities at the referees and opponents.

For craft and workout nights, the results are immediate for myself and my colleagues. But what do I get for supporting my loved ones at things such as sporting events? Honestly, this is something I have never thought about before, because the fun and excitement have always suppressed such a question.

But, it doesn’t take me long to come up with an answer.

Tim (the boyfriend) starting playing hockey just a few months back. he started ice skating just shortly before that. Hockey is something he has dreamed of partaking in since he was little. expensive equipment and other circumstances barred him from participating as a youngun, but his want to fulfill a dream – a physical dream that could have been nulled with age and fear – trumped many things. Now he is learning it, living it, and loving it.

Yes, i know this is the long answer, but it is my blog (tehehe).

Short answer: Just to see these people in my life happy and doing what they love. That is all I need.

AND that is why hockey is my church. What is yours?

❤ The Roamin Twin

Comfort Zone = Danger Zone

Wrapped in a cocoon of blankets in the fetal position.

Staying in my pajamas all day long.

Knitting next to a warm fire with yummy cookies baking in the oven.

These are all comfort zones. Specific to me, but not so specific that you also cannot relate to these or others just like them. These activities relax me, recharge me; but they also suffocate me, stifling my growth.

At this point in my life it is not my physical growth they affect -though, maybe with time, my width – but my intellectual growth towards my dreams.

I spend half my life dreaming, and the other working. To lounge too often, to live within my comfort zone, is to risk the life of opportunities missed. Because the world doesn’t take a break just because I do. And, though I am lucky enough to be in a position where I am making money working a couple of jobs that are assisting me on my path, I am using those positions as an excuse to relax when I am “finished” for the day. But, as in my last post, it takes passionate focus to move forward, and curling up into a ball of blankets with my puppy dog is not showing that I adhere to that ideal.

So it is time, my friends, to tweak my ways and narrow the amount of time I spend in my personal comfort zone. It will take baby steps, but each is one step closer to living my dreams. Even if I just start by changing out of my pjs first thing when I wake up.

All I know is that at this point I have too many goals – in work, finances, spirituality, and overall happiness – to sit around and wait for my life to happen. I am too young to merit retirement to my pajamas anyways.

But, I will need help. Most of us do. I have already called on the likes of my parents and boyfriend to help keep me motivated in many areas of my life – not that I needed to “call” on them, as it is their natural tendency to support me. Now, i am asking you to help me. If there are any “yous” out there. If there are only a handful of you, share this post with those you love and wish happiness for. Those who help motivate me towards my goals of happiness will receive support from me as we’ll.

That is what I want most, and is the reason I started this blog in the first place. Spreading happiness doesn’t come with the blink of an eye or the twitch of a nose. It takes action and persistence…outside of your comfort zone. And mine.

Happy Tuesday!

❤ The Roamin Twin